My chosen family no longer meets my current high-priority needs; I need a village.

Illustration: LGBT Community Center of Greater Cleveland

Mother’s Day: [silence]

Father’s Day: [more silence]

[annual cycle repeats]

Each year, as I get older, wiser, and more liberated, these holidays become easier to deconstruct, reconstruct, and digest — to make sense of such a layered holiday that’s trapped in outdated…